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Yeah a lot of this was women assuming what happens with guys. A richer guy gets a hotter wife, so a richer woman should get a better guy right? Nope.

onion2k 4y ago
That's not quite accurate. A rich man gets a hotter wife by most men's standards because most men's standards of "a hot woman" are very similar. The same is true for rich women, but women's standards for what "a hot man" is vary far more. Both are attaining what they think is hot though.
- phpisthebest 4y ago
  A few years ago OK Cupid released data that flies in the face of your narrative, and it showed based on their research that men have a far wider range of acceptable looks than women do, at least of the user of their app
  - onion2k 4y ago
    Men on a dating site will message pretty much everyone. That doesn't mean those are the people they find hottest. In fact, men are often reluctant to approach really hot women because they think they'll be rejected.
    - phpisthebest 4y ago
      >>That doesn't mean those are the people they find hottest. In fact, men are often reluctant to approach really hot women because they think they'll be rejected. Pretty sure that is a result of experience not just some miss placed belief >Men on a dating site will message pretty much everyone While true, the data was not just placed on messaging. Other data seems to back this result as well.
  - cloudier 4y ago
    That’s not the full context on the data OK Cupid released. Men tended to rate women in a normal distribution, but they also mostly messaged women in the uppermost range of attractiveness. Women tended to rate men more harshly, rating most men below average attractiveness, but they also tended to message those "below average" men regardless of their assessment.
  - dehugger 4y ago
    I struggle to think that data from a dating app represents the majority of women accurately. Most women don't use dating apps to find long term partners, at least among my peers and online circles. The common use case is casual hookups, which would certainly place a higher emphasis on physical attributes. Conversely, I have met/seen many men looking for long term partners on those same sites, which should place a higher emphasis on compatibility.
scythe 4y ago
In order to use your money to help you on the dating market, you have to approach. Nobody is going up to people in bars and asking "will you buy me a drink?". However, social norms are nowhere near making this practical for most women.

onion2k 4y ago

That's not quite accurate. A rich man gets a hotter wife by most men's standards because most men's standards of "a hot woman" are very similar. The same is true for rich women, but women's standards for what "a hot man" is vary far more. Both are attaining what they think is hot though.

phpisthebest 4y ago
A few years ago OK Cupid released data that flies in the face of your narrative, and it showed based on their research that men have a far wider range of acceptable looks than women do, at least of the user of their app
- onion2k 4y ago
  Men on a dating site will message pretty much everyone. That doesn't mean those are the people they find hottest. In fact, men are often reluctant to approach really hot women because they think they'll be rejected.
  - phpisthebest 4y ago
    >>That doesn't mean those are the people they find hottest. In fact, men are often reluctant to approach really hot women because they think they'll be rejected. Pretty sure that is a result of experience not just some miss placed belief >Men on a dating site will message pretty much everyone While true, the data was not just placed on messaging. Other data seems to back this result as well.
- cloudier 4y ago
  That’s not the full context on the data OK Cupid released. Men tended to rate women in a normal distribution, but they also mostly messaged women in the uppermost range of attractiveness. Women tended to rate men more harshly, rating most men below average attractiveness, but they also tended to message those "below average" men regardless of their assessment.
- dehugger 4y ago
  I struggle to think that data from a dating app represents the majority of women accurately. Most women don't use dating apps to find long term partners, at least among my peers and online circles. The common use case is casual hookups, which would certainly place a higher emphasis on physical attributes. Conversely, I have met/seen many men looking for long term partners on those same sites, which should place a higher emphasis on compatibility.

scythe 4y ago

In order to use your money to help you on the dating market, you have to approach. Nobody is going up to people in bars and asking "will you buy me a drink?". However, social norms are nowhere near making this practical for most women.