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Interesting and i kind of agree, but what about a girlfriend / wife? I feel like scuffling about in one's own bed is ultimately what wakes me up sometimes and

Interesting and i kind of agree, but what about a girlfriend / wife? I feel like scuffling about in one's own bed is ultimately what wakes me up sometimes and i haven't really found a solution that isn't sleep in separate rooms. I already do like to sleep with white noise and earpieces.

gknoy 4y ago
Consider having separate top-sheets + blankets, perhaps with an over-layer blanket over all of it. Then, your partner's tossing and turning will jostle the bed, but won't pull on your cocoon of blankets (and vice versa).
- IWillForgetThis 4y ago
  Or even separate twin xl mattresses (and box springs if applicable) with a strap kit and shared king fitted sheet. My wife and I did this about 2 years ago and it's been great. She wanted a traditional mattress and I wanted to diy a memory foam mattress with a 6" layer of memory foam* (2-4 is normal). I sink into my viscoelastic cocoon every night and she sleeps on top of a normal mattress. *Note that this is usually considered uncomfortable and possibly bad for your back. I'm a side sleeper who always had elbow and shoulder pain in the morning and it worked for me, but do your research if you ever decide to diy a mattress. It also weighs about as much as a dead moose.
_whiteCaps_ 4y ago
A memory foam mattress that isolates your partner's movements can help.
- ajb 4y ago
  But, foam mattresses can also by much hotter (actually more insulating) than spring mattresses which will also disturb sleep, so make sure you check that before switching.
  - diydsp 4y ago
    having recently been mattress shopping, note that boxspring/whatever else you have under the mattress can have a huge impact on the isolation from left/right of the mattress. I also recommend Consumer Reports' mattress reviews. Our mattress had excellent isolation in the store, but at home, on our adjustable platform, isolation is much lower! The adjustable platform sways left and right quite a bit.
rocketbop 4y ago
Here in Germany it's common for couples to have a duvet each. I don't like that but I do the size of the bed hugely affects my sleep. Even an extra 20cm can make a difference, maybe you could try going oversized.

gknoy 4y ago

Consider having separate top-sheets + blankets, perhaps with an over-layer blanket over all of it. Then, your partner's tossing and turning will jostle the bed, but won't pull on your cocoon of blankets (and vice versa).

IWillForgetThis 4y ago
Or even separate twin xl mattresses (and box springs if applicable) with a strap kit and shared king fitted sheet. My wife and I did this about 2 years ago and it's been great. She wanted a traditional mattress and I wanted to diy a memory foam mattress with a 6" layer of memory foam* (2-4 is normal). I sink into my viscoelastic cocoon every night and she sleeps on top of a normal mattress. *Note that this is usually considered uncomfortable and possibly bad for your back. I'm a side sleeper who always had elbow and shoulder pain in the morning and it worked for me, but do your research if you ever decide to diy a mattress. It also weighs about as much as a dead moose.

_whiteCaps_ 4y ago

A memory foam mattress that isolates your partner's movements can help.

ajb 4y ago
But, foam mattresses can also by much hotter (actually more insulating) than spring mattresses which will also disturb sleep, so make sure you check that before switching.
- diydsp 4y ago
  having recently been mattress shopping, note that boxspring/whatever else you have under the mattress can have a huge impact on the isolation from left/right of the mattress. I also recommend Consumer Reports' mattress reviews. Our mattress had excellent isolation in the store, but at home, on our adjustable platform, isolation is much lower! The adjustable platform sways left and right quite a bit.

rocketbop 4y ago

Here in Germany it's common for couples to have a duvet each. I don't like that but I do the size of the bed hugely affects my sleep. Even an extra 20cm can make a difference, maybe you could try going oversized.