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This is a risky subject to talk about. I guess it's mostly because everyone has a different background and view things differently. I do know however that diffe
by phzbOx 15y ago
This is a risky subject to talk about. I guess it's mostly because everyone has a different background and view things differently. I do know however that different women will handle things very differently.
For instance, I'd open a door to a women and she'd put her best smile and thank me while another one might be offended that I'd treat her specially. (Happens to me from time to time in the metro.) Who's right? I guess both.. it depends of their background.
I always feel there's a blur when working with women between professionalism and amiability. I.e. If I talk with a colleague (man) about his weekend, it's fine. If I have the same conversation with a girl, it'd seem I'm trying to date with her. I don't know, maybe it's just me over-thinking things. What do you think?
- fleitz 15y agoI find its a far more a difference between "everything is about me" type personalities, and "it's probably not about me type personalities" than anything to do with gender. What I mean by this is the difference between people who think you drank the last coke to annoy them and people who think you drank the last coke because you were thirsty. I've found it with both men and women, one man I held a door open thought I was treating him specially because he was in a wheel chair. I hold doors open because it's a nice thing to do and avoids people getting doors slammed in their face, it's just good manners, if people want to think I'm doing it because I think that they are unable to it's quite fine by me. I think you're over thinking it but it's good to be cognizant of other people's feelings, you'll go far further in life by catering to those who appreciate having doors held open and asking about weekends than you will by catering to the misanthropes who see ulterior motives in everything.