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There's also a potential issue of the "help" being a net-negative, even when provided. If someone has strong ideas about how the work should be done that diffe
by kd5bjo 4y ago
There's also a potential issue of the "help" being a net-negative, even when provided. If someone has strong ideas about how the work should be done that differ from yours, for instance, accepting their help can make things worse. Unfortunately, you usually can't know whether this is the case until after they've already started.
- lazide 4y agoIt’s not uncommon, in say urban homelessness, that shelters or food banks will have conditions that many of the people on the street consider unconscionable or impossible to meet. Some reflection on them tends to be informative about many of the challenges on both sides, and the nature of the problem. Some of them include shelters with: - No dog rules (because many people have dogs which are poorly behaved, lack immunizations, and have attacked other people at the shelters in the past). Many folks have animals for companionship and protection. - No drug rules, including Alcohol (because many people have gone on drug fueled benders and attacked others at the shelters in the last). Many persistent homeless folks have drug problems too. - Sex segregation rules (because women have been raped by others at the shelter in the past). The problem is, many homeless women also have boyfriends that provide a significant degree of safety and support, and even with sex segregation, the shelters have predators. But what else are they supposed to do? If they don’t make rules to at least protect others in the environment, they’re making a giant attractive nuisance/hazard. If they make exceptions, they’re asking to be attacked or sued themselves. (You’d be surprised how many activists are happy to spend serious money suing over something like that).