I can identify with this article. It also reminded me of this post from last month which did a deep dive into shame (and how it’s different than guilt). It’s a

I can identify with this article. It also reminded me of this post from last month which did a deep dive into shame (and how it’s different than guilt). It’s a long read but worth it: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32497194 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=32497194 I am in healthcare and never wanted to be in administration. For complicated reasons, I keep getting more leadership responsibilities even though I typically think of myself as conflict avoidant. I do pride myself as being a role model for helping people and “taking the extra step” to help people when it may be something others would delegate. I think in my case it more has to due with lack of competition and such but I definitely fit the bill for someone who feels guilt. I can see also how guilt that is felt with respect to the entire group can lead to decisions that are better for the group (but may cost an individual more).