I think this is not at all uncommon. I am largely in the same boat and assumed this was the 'de facto norm' amongst my peers as a teen (90s NZ), but it's intere

I think this is not at all uncommon. I am largely in the same boat and assumed this was the 'de facto norm' amongst my peers as a teen (90s NZ), but it's interesting to consider that groups are often defined by what they are not.