Hello! Mid 30s guys here. I share this trait. This is trite advice, but it works for me. First of all, I am always a little bit lonely. I have trouble letting

Hello! Mid 30s guys here. I share this trait. This is trite advice, but it works for me. First of all, I am always a little bit lonely. I have trouble letting people getting close, and it takes me longer than other people to show any vulnerability. I am a homebody who would prefer solo projects or video games to going out an talking to people. But I still have friends and a good relationship. So I guess step zero is to accept that things will never be perfect and are always a work in progress. There is no perfection, at least not for me, only improvement. Advice number 1 is that familiarity breeds friendship. Find something that you don't hate and keep going to it, week after week. Board game meetups, religious/atheist meetups, political groups, volunteering, anything. The important thing is to keep showing up. Advice 2 is that vulnerability is a big part of what attracts others to you. Don't over share too soon, but share some qualities about yourself. Don't be a faceless needless perfect person. Let your guard down a bit and be willing to stand on your own traits, and be accepted or rejected. It will be difficult and painful, but if people don't accept you for who you really are, then that group wasn't for you anyway. Also, vulnerability is an ongoing process that deepens over the course of a friendship.