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being around people takes effort. It is easy to get used to that lack of effort and mistake it for "loving to be alone". For the last two years I worked from m

being around people takes effort. It is easy to get used to that lack of effort and mistake it for "loving to be alone". For the last two years I worked from my bed and would mostly be in bed all day. I train brazilian jiu jitsu so do leave the house for that. Im also married with 3 kids so I leave the house when they make me. It is easy to not expend energy and just stay home, laying in bed all day. During covid I could easily not leave the house for a week. For me that was living my best life. About 2 weeks ago I started working sitting at my home office desk. It was actually hard at first, but over the course of a week I got used to sitting up again. Going out to develop relationships is the same way. It might be exhausting at first, but it gets easier the more you do it. The easiest way to not be alone is to start a hobby that is with other people. I have never participated in one where people didnt start hanging out together. It will be at your pace and you can show up or not show up whenever you want. I personally do sports, but it could be volunteer work, board games, coding clubs, etc.

93po 4y ago
This was going to be my post too - I used to have severe social anxiety, consider myself extremely introverted, and loving to be alone. But I was a very unhappy person and suffered a lot from depression/mental health issues. Life circumstances (being single) forced me to go out. It was a really hard task, extremely uncomfortable, and full of sort of traumatic and awful experiences. It's only 6-7 years later after starting this that I'm finally in a place where I would almost describe myself as extroverted. I'm socially an entirely different person. My general mental health and well-being is greatly improved. I get a lot of value out of the people in my life and my relationships with them.

93po 4y ago

This was going to be my post too - I used to have severe social anxiety, consider myself extremely introverted, and loving to be alone. But I was a very unhappy person and suffered a lot from depression/mental health issues. Life circumstances (being single) forced me to go out. It was a really hard task, extremely uncomfortable, and full of sort of traumatic and awful experiences. It's only 6-7 years later after starting this that I'm finally in a place where I would almost describe myself as extroverted. I'm socially an entirely different person. My general mental health and well-being is greatly improved. I get a lot of value out of the people in my life and my relationships with them.