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> As with most touchy subjects, I find the best path forward is to openly discuss without shutting down voices. I try to follow this myself, but I do find myse
by PuppyTailWags 4y ago
> As with most touchy subjects, I find the best path forward is to openly discuss without shutting down voices.
I try to follow this myself, but I do find myself giving exceptions to specific touchy subjects. For example, I don't understand how to approach a touchy subject where open discussion actually drives away people and therefore makes it an echo chamber.
For example if a gay person left a community because people were openly discussing whether or not gay people are pedophiles and advocating for the castration and torture of gay people, and that the advocating for castration and torture of gay people wasn't being shut down, I honestly think that's a totally reasonable behavior on behalf of the gay person. And I honestly would disagree that this created anything even remotely resembling a "forward path" direction.
But, in abstract, I still believe we should openly discuss touchy subject matters. I just find myself constantly running into actual application where I disagree that openly discussing a specific matter actually benefitted anyone, and found myself agreeing that the community would be healthier if specific topics of conversation were shut down.
- andirk 4y ago_most_ touchy subjects. There is no absolute. For some reason, I cannot handle a person speaking about a woman's appearance in the negative in front of her, and it's because I _think_ I am feeling her pain. I have told people to leave my house immediately for things like that. N-bombs, etc. That makes me a hypocrite, but I'm not strong enough to handle certain topics. I, myself, have accidentally said bigoted things and someone of the relevant marginalized community explains to me why it's hateful to say that, and I am so thankful for their words.
- genewitch 4y agoI don't know the context; with that said, are you sure you heard "hateful" and not "hurtful"? Hate is contextually charged. I know it's lost a lot of its meaning, but as someone who had a parent for whom english was a second language, I was taught not to misuse words like "hate".