It seems that's what you're hoping I'd agree to. It's not the man's job to help with child rearing. It's the exact opposite: it's the woman's job to take care

It seems that's what you're hoping I'd agree to. It's not the man's job to help with child rearing. It's the exact opposite: it's the woman's job to take care of the house so her man can go out there in the world and build up his business or career (or whatever it is), because that is how he fulfills his role in the family. That's how it has always been done. This is common to all societies with high fertility.