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Why look far for the reason? The upkeep of a proper household is a half time job at the very least. If you live alone, you need to that work on top of your dayt

Why look far for the reason? The upkeep of a proper household is a half time job at the very least. If you live alone, you need to that work on top of your daytime job, or suffer a loss of living standards, usually in the form of consuming crappy food. Both options are detrimental to the energy you can invest in your career. I'm not saying that a man should find a partner so (s)he can do the cooking and the cleaning for him. I'm saying that if you're a couple, you can divide the work which saves a lot of energy.

novia 4y ago
The reason to care is that married women do not see a corresponding bump in their pay after marriage.
ChainOfFools 4y ago
Married working co-upkeeper of a marginally proper household here. Having both partners work full time careers means that both of you are typically engaged with the same kind of task during the same spans of time throughout the day, making it quite difficult to divide up housework efficiently. Productivity gains in some areas are typically offset by losses in others due to solving coordination problems and access to somewhat mutually constrained resources, such as only one kitchen, only one garage, sometimes only one car, and so on. There's a certain background miasma of stress involved in every decision about dividing labor, because if you are both building your careers it becomes a burden to risk a promotion for the sake of making sure the dog has a regular bath, instead of using that bandwidth to pull a couple extra hours this month to stay ahead of your metrics. This is especially true if you have children, who need eyes and hands nearby at all times when they're very small, and need transportation and enriching activities such as vacations with their whole family when they get older. You seldom can split that time up between partners in a satisfactory way.

novia 4y ago

The reason to care is that married women do not see a corresponding bump in their pay after marriage.

ChainOfFools 4y ago

Married working co-upkeeper of a marginally proper household here. Having both partners work full time careers means that both of you are typically engaged with the same kind of task during the same spans of time throughout the day, making it quite difficult to divide up housework efficiently. Productivity gains in some areas are typically offset by losses in others due to solving coordination problems and access to somewhat mutually constrained resources, such as only one kitchen, only one garage, sometimes only one car, and so on. There's a certain background miasma of stress involved in every decision about dividing labor, because if you are both building your careers it becomes a burden to risk a promotion for the sake of making sure the dog has a regular bath, instead of using that bandwidth to pull a couple extra hours this month to stay ahead of your metrics. This is especially true if you have children, who need eyes and hands nearby at all times when they're very small, and need transportation and enriching activities such as vacations with their whole family when they get older. You seldom can split that time up between partners in a satisfactory way.