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If it’s always the people… it might be you.
by tomcam 4y ago
If it’s always the people… it might be you.
- smcl 4y agoIf it's always everyone else then it might be OP, but it'd be unfair to assume that. It's possible they've worked in a few teams of 10-15 people of which a couple were disruptive enough in some way that it was easier to move than to try to confront them or otherwise resolve it somehow
- jart 4y agoThe OP is asking for life advice anonymously. There's no safer environment for them to hear the sorts of things people think but wouldn't otherwise say.
- smcl 4y agoI think my comment allowed for that hard truth to be confronted while also offering an alternative explanation (that it is possible to be unlucky a few jobs in a row with some colleagues who just make life difficult)
- ThePadawan 4y agoI have heard your comment before, in this joke: If you walk into a room and it smells like dog shit, a dog probably shit in that room. If you walk into a second room and it still smells like dog shit, there might have been a dog that shit into both those rooms. If you walk into a third room and it still smells like dog shit, check the bottom of your shoe. In that (shitty) metaphor, it might just be that your office building (~i.e. the software industry) is next to a sewage plant (i.e. its problems), regardless of the state of your shoes.
- smcl 4y agoHa nice, until the last line I was thinking "nooo, you missed part of my original comment!" :D
- treis 4y agoI'd argue that's still them if they can't resolve conflicts. I can think of only a couple people in my career that have been irredeemably difficult to work with. If OP keeps finding them they're either very unlucky or part of the problem.
- ThePadawan 4y agoOn the other hand - if it's always the people, that means that the people are the biggest (only?) thing OP is struggling with. And that even the smallest remaining problem still fills the remaining mental space, suddenly becoming the biggest problem in the room, no matter its size. For me personally, that's how my brain works. Sometimes I need to realign and discover that just because all the "9/10" (in terms of difficulty) problems and 7/10 problems have been solved, the 2/10 problem isn't that bad, just because it's now the worst problem at hand.