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You can make people feel vulnerable. The moment you ask for directions, you reveal that you are lost. Seeking assistance can feel like you are broadcasting your
by steve_john 4y ago
You can make people feel vulnerable. The moment you ask for directions, you reveal that you are lost. Seeking assistance can feel like you are broadcasting your incompetence. New research suggests young children don't seek help in school, even when they need it, for the same reason.
- nomel 4y agoFrom what I've seen, this is no different for adults. Getting adults to ask for help is really difficult, and I've given up trying to pursued it (inorganically), in the workplace. On the other hand, getting adults to give "XY Problem" [1] fueled demands is very very easy. 1. https://xyproblem.info https://xyproblem.info
- Godel_unicode 4y agoDeveloping the habit of repeatedly asking people for help and then taking it when they give it will fix this very quickly. You just have to be willing to go first. People feel much better about asking someone for help if they have given that person help in the past.
- nomel 4y agoI think this works very well for someone working directly in your domain, but doesn't work so well when you're a domain expert, outside of the others normal domain, since you can have a very small general, or mostly unidirectional specific, overlap.