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An old manager gave me something I almost consider a superpower - a simple technique that works for this very well. Ask questions. That's it. Turns out, eithe
by philjohn 4y ago
An old manager gave me something I almost consider a superpower - a simple technique that works for this very well.
Ask questions.
That's it. Turns out, either you're wrong, and the answers to the questions will make you ralise this, or they're wrong, and them answering the questions will guide them to the mistake.
Telling someone, even respectfully, that they're wrong can kick off defense mechanisms, no matter how experienced they are.
- nathias 4y agothis only works on complete morons, anyone else will know what is happening and probably be more annoyed that you think of him as a moron ...
- account-5 4y agoI don't agree, unless you're asking questions sarcastically or questions with obvious answers; if you're asking questions as a genuine means to try and understand what they are talking about, making no assumptions that they are wrong, only a moron would get annoyed at having to explain their thinking. A moron, or someone who knows they are wrong.
- philjohn 4y agoThis. Asking genuine questions is the key - as is starting from the assumption that, hey, I might be completely wrong here - I want to understand this.