There are some people that play with a full appreciation of the numbers and want to min-max everything, as you’d expect. But this is absolutely not my experienc

There are some people that play with a full appreciation of the numbers and want to min-max everything, as you’d expect. But this is absolutely not my experience of Crusader Kings II and especially III. You can approach it almost entirely as a role playing game, or even a story-telling sandbox. You find yourself in situations that aren’t just “how do I beat this neighbouring power with greater attack/defence numbers” but more like “oh no, my oldest children died, I’ve married off my remaining daughter for an alliance and all her heirs are of the wrong house, how can I get her to remarry while forcing the kids to all to become monks or die?” All while writing love poetry to your wife and looking after your favourite horse.