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I love eating out alone, as well as watching movies alone, taking walks alone, even traveling abroad alone (/r/solotravel) and so on. It's so much more liberati

I love eating out alone, as well as watching movies alone, taking walks alone, even traveling abroad alone (/r/solotravel) and so on. It's so much more liberating to do things you want to do at the exact time you want to do them without having to wait for anybody to accompany you. At the same time, I'm not sure why there's so much anxiety from the author about doing things alone. As I'm not one of those people, perhaps I have a hard time understanding it, but the truth is, no one gives a shit about you in their day to day life, so there's really no societal pressure that I think the author feels.

hbn 4y ago
I don't get why going to movies is seen as a thing you should do with your friends. You're not supposed to be talking during it, and if you are, you're annoying everyone around you. Unless the plan is to go to the movie and then get a meal at which point you can discuss it after. But otherwise, I pretty much only go to movies alone.
- lostmsu 4y ago
  Because you can discuss the movie afterwards. Also getting there and back.
- paulryanrogers 4y ago
  Friends and I often went to a less expensive cinema in a lower income neighborhood. The culture there was to react loudly and whisper amongst the neighboring seats. No one felt cheated since tickets were $1 each and movies had been out for a while. Good times. Now people spend $20+ per seat.
  - soco 4y ago
    You should go watching a Bollywood production in a cinema in India. Now that's the communal experience.
- doublerabbit 4y ago
  It's more fun and excitement. It adds a whole new element which you don't get when you go by yourself. Sitting a movie by myself feels dull and lonesome and a lot of effort.
  - Fatnino 4y ago
    I literally can't relate to this comment at all. Interesting how the same action can be internalized so differently by different people. Going anywhere with people adds a low level of stress that is completely avoidable by going alone. And at a movie, once the lights go down, the rest of the audience fades away and it's just me and the screen. Doesn't matter if I'm with friends or complete strangers or even if it's an empty theater other than me.
cholantesh 4y ago
Funnily enough when I travel alone I do this all the time and think nothing of it. When I was younger I used to frequently sup alone before going to a concert or a party (that wasn't expected to have food). Rarely went to a movie alone, and now that I've experienced home surround sound I can't go back...
throw827474737 4y ago
> why there's so much anxiety from the author about doing things alone Not only alone, but other to me quite absurd fears replace those when being "together": > I don’t need to stress about the check, ordering the same thing as someone else, or being judged by coworkers. I’m free to read, write, eavesdrop, order, and eat as slowly as I please. I can understand some.. fortunately aging really taught "noone gives a shit" - and if they do you often just should care even less!! ÷) (sure it depends, some etiquette makes sense.. don't disgust others etc..)

hbn 4y ago

I don't get why going to movies is seen as a thing you should do with your friends. You're not supposed to be talking during it, and if you are, you're annoying everyone around you. Unless the plan is to go to the movie and then get a meal at which point you can discuss it after. But otherwise, I pretty much only go to movies alone.

lostmsu 4y ago
Because you can discuss the movie afterwards. Also getting there and back.
paulryanrogers 4y ago
Friends and I often went to a less expensive cinema in a lower income neighborhood. The culture there was to react loudly and whisper amongst the neighboring seats. No one felt cheated since tickets were $1 each and movies had been out for a while. Good times. Now people spend $20+ per seat.
- soco 4y ago
  You should go watching a Bollywood production in a cinema in India. Now that's the communal experience.
doublerabbit 4y ago
It's more fun and excitement. It adds a whole new element which you don't get when you go by yourself. Sitting a movie by myself feels dull and lonesome and a lot of effort.
- Fatnino 4y ago
  I literally can't relate to this comment at all. Interesting how the same action can be internalized so differently by different people. Going anywhere with people adds a low level of stress that is completely avoidable by going alone. And at a movie, once the lights go down, the rest of the audience fades away and it's just me and the screen. Doesn't matter if I'm with friends or complete strangers or even if it's an empty theater other than me.

cholantesh 4y ago

Funnily enough when I travel alone I do this all the time and think nothing of it. When I was younger I used to frequently sup alone before going to a concert or a party (that wasn't expected to have food). Rarely went to a movie alone, and now that I've experienced home surround sound I can't go back...

throw827474737 4y ago

> why there's so much anxiety from the author about doing things alone Not only alone, but other to me quite absurd fears replace those when being "together": > I don’t need to stress about the check, ordering the same thing as someone else, or being judged by coworkers. I’m free to read, write, eavesdrop, order, and eat as slowly as I please. I can understand some.. fortunately aging really taught "noone gives a shit" - and if they do you often just should care even less!! ÷) (sure it depends, some etiquette makes sense.. don't disgust others etc..)