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This is a little like saying "just do it". It's not really pragmatic. Many humans feel uncomfortable being "exposed" in various ways, and one of those ways is b

This is a little like saying "just do it". It's not really pragmatic. Many humans feel uncomfortable being "exposed" in various ways, and one of those ways is being conspicuous in public. I enjoy going to the theater alone, but you're sitting in the dark among people in a continuous sea of seats, not grouped into tables. In a restaurant, it feels conspicuous to be eating alone, even though I have the experience of being on the other side of it - seeing people eating alone at restaurants all the time, and never giving a single thought about them. Self-consciousness isn't compelled by logic. For some reason I've never had this issue at diners though. It's always a joy to eat alone at 6 am in a diner, no matter how many other parties are there. I don't know how that environment tricks my brain into feeling comfortable. Bars, too. I guess there is a popular image of lone patrons in these settings, and it makes one feel less conspicuous.

bombcar 4y ago
Some restaurants really feel like they’re designed for date nite and I guess I could see feeling out of place. But bars and diners are often “working” food and so you’ll see people alone all the time.
soupfordummies 4y ago
For those that care about being obviously alone at a table surrounded by couples, there’s an easy solution— just sit at the bar
saiya-jin 4y ago
You name it yourself - emotions, nothing more. Dont be a slave to them, telling you what to do, how to behave, how to think. You will end up with tons of regrets later in life, 100% guaranteed. Let sinergy of cold hard facts (aka rationality) and emotions drive your life. You will make best decisions like that, and they will stand the test of time. Also this way you dont end up easily as an arrogant ahole who just doesnt think about any consequenced. Just do it may not be enough if you are not there yet, but once you are, you will understand why its true. Or life is too short to XYZ, or whatever else clicks with you.

bombcar 4y ago

Some restaurants really feel like they’re designed for date nite and I guess I could see feeling out of place. But bars and diners are often “working” food and so you’ll see people alone all the time.

soupfordummies 4y ago

For those that care about being obviously alone at a table surrounded by couples, there’s an easy solution— just sit at the bar

saiya-jin 4y ago

You name it yourself - emotions, nothing more. Dont be a slave to them, telling you what to do, how to behave, how to think. You will end up with tons of regrets later in life, 100% guaranteed. Let sinergy of cold hard facts (aka rationality) and emotions drive your life. You will make best decisions like that, and they will stand the test of time. Also this way you dont end up easily as an arrogant ahole who just doesnt think about any consequenced. Just do it may not be enough if you are not there yet, but once you are, you will understand why its true. Or life is too short to XYZ, or whatever else clicks with you.