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Yeah. If the author is afraid of appearing lonely, one of the most liberating things to realise is that nobody really gives a shit about you. At most, people wi

Yeah. If the author is afraid of appearing lonely, one of the most liberating things to realise is that nobody really gives a shit about you. At most, people will glance and exchange a few words upon noticing you before moving on to some other topic. For everyone else you're just part of the background of their life. Everyone is too busy thinking about their own insecurities and experience to think about you, generally speaking. The only time people will go out of their way to be cruel about such things is in school, which leads me to suspect the author might have had a rough time.

happytoexplain 4y ago
>At most, people will glance and exchange a few words upon noticing you It's a surprise to me seeing this offered as a comfort, since I think it would be slightly mortifying to most people in the subset you're addressing.
- c7DJTLrn 4y ago
  Yes but the key words are "at most". In my country at least, that is extremely unlikely to happen. You wouldn't necessarily even know if they did say something pertaining to you.
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- yakubin 4y ago
  I have a favourite restaurant I go to regularly, alone. The waiters and cooks there know me, as I've been going there for years now. I also have a fairly stable taste, so for some time I've been seeing and overhearing them making bets upon my arrival about what and in what quantity I will order, before I actually make the order. Rather than being embarrassed about it, I'm amused and always want to smile when I notice this happening. People noticing your personal quirks is really not that bad.
  - tmpz22 4y ago
    At my local watering hole I pretty consistently order a makers mark on the rocks. To the point where they’ll anticipate my order and either have it ready for me or it’ll be the first question they ask. Every once in awhile though I’ll mix it up and get similar reactions.
spaetzleesser 4y ago
“nobody really gives a shit about you.” This realization helped me a lot with social anxiety. For a long time I believed that everybody was watching and judging me. This made it very hard to go out and do things. It was a relief to be able to let go of this belief.
- miked85 4y ago
  That, plus even if they did give a shit about you...who cares, it doesn't affect you either way.

happytoexplain 4y ago

>At most, people will glance and exchange a few words upon noticing you It's a surprise to me seeing this offered as a comfort, since I think it would be slightly mortifying to most people in the subset you're addressing.

c7DJTLrn 4y ago
Yes but the key words are "at most". In my country at least, that is extremely unlikely to happen. You wouldn't necessarily even know if they did say something pertaining to you.
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yakubin 4y ago
I have a favourite restaurant I go to regularly, alone. The waiters and cooks there know me, as I've been going there for years now. I also have a fairly stable taste, so for some time I've been seeing and overhearing them making bets upon my arrival about what and in what quantity I will order, before I actually make the order. Rather than being embarrassed about it, I'm amused and always want to smile when I notice this happening. People noticing your personal quirks is really not that bad.
- tmpz22 4y ago
  At my local watering hole I pretty consistently order a makers mark on the rocks. To the point where they’ll anticipate my order and either have it ready for me or it’ll be the first question they ask. Every once in awhile though I’ll mix it up and get similar reactions.

spaetzleesser 4y ago

“nobody really gives a shit about you.” This realization helped me a lot with social anxiety. For a long time I believed that everybody was watching and judging me. This made it very hard to go out and do things. It was a relief to be able to let go of this belief.

miked85 4y ago
That, plus even if they did give a shit about you...who cares, it doesn't affect you either way.