I am aware that WhatsApp isn't social media, it's just an example of an app I would ideally like to switch away from. I'm not really sure how it's defeatist wh

I am aware that WhatsApp isn't social media, it's just an example of an app I would ideally like to switch away from. I'm not really sure how it's defeatist when trying even to only get myself off the app would require making things much harder for my relatively tech illiterate parents on the other side of the world with no tech literate relative to lean on to help them out. With Whatsapp they've used it for a few years and can easily get help from any young neighbor in case of issues. It isn't like I'm not trying. For example, for communicating with some close fairly tech literate friends, we go through a relatively big effort to host and maintain our ideal of a self-hosted Matrix and Misskey node. But there we can manage it due to everyone in the group being able to at least describe the errors they run into.