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Nice statistics. I found my wife on Tinder, and I'm by all means no top 5%. Actually that depends on how you count it of course. Women don't prefer men with 6-p

Nice statistics. I found my wife on Tinder, and I'm by all means no top 5%. Actually that depends on how you count it of course. Women don't prefer men with 6-packs, if you haven't figured that out already. My wife works as a dating coach, with both men and women. Men are very reluctant to listen or even try the advice, so I'm not going to try to convince you guys that you can make it work. It's not that hard actually, but most men already made up their mind on the whole dating thing. I'm sure there's plenty of "experts" here that can tell you all about how it can never work.

ibrahimsow1 4y ago
What's the advice she gives that men don't listen to that isn't easily googleable
- koonsolo 4y ago
  She gives personal advice of course, which can be very specific for each case. One specific example I can give you: Women find it important that you have clean, well-groomed hands. This is not intuitive or obvious to men at all, unless you know. But I think the main problem is not necessarily the lack of information, but a more a mentality change. A lot of the men think "She has to accept me for who I am". That might be true, but it's not really relevant. You have to show what you can offer in a relationship. A woman doesn't start a relationship with you just because she all of a sudden loves you. No, she starts a relationship because somehow she gets some benefit out of that relationship. So you have to show what you have to offer. You like traveling? Maybe she wants to travel. You like a certain kind of music? Maybe she likes that music and likes to go to concerts. Or whatever. Answering the question "Why would a woman start a relationship with you? What's in it for her?" seems a question that some men don't want to answer. I don't mean that they don't know the answer, I mean they have a problem with the question itself.
- dwaltrip 4y ago
  I was pretty skeptical about dating books. But I’ve been reading “Models - Attract women through honesty”, and it has a lot of very good advice in it. I would recommend it to any guy. The TL;DR is to improve yourself, work on your insecurities, be emotionally open, and become genuinely not-needy. He provides a lot of specific helpful tactics.
davidguetta 4y ago
Depends on the age also.. women 27+ are 1000 easier to get than 23-25 on tinder
- koonsolo 4y ago
  That might be possible. We were both in our 30's
orangepurple 4y ago
Relationships between couples that are not looks matched are unstable at best. Good luck.

ibrahimsow1 4y ago

What's the advice she gives that men don't listen to that isn't easily googleable

koonsolo 4y ago
She gives personal advice of course, which can be very specific for each case. One specific example I can give you: Women find it important that you have clean, well-groomed hands. This is not intuitive or obvious to men at all, unless you know. But I think the main problem is not necessarily the lack of information, but a more a mentality change. A lot of the men think "She has to accept me for who I am". That might be true, but it's not really relevant. You have to show what you can offer in a relationship. A woman doesn't start a relationship with you just because she all of a sudden loves you. No, she starts a relationship because somehow she gets some benefit out of that relationship. So you have to show what you have to offer. You like traveling? Maybe she wants to travel. You like a certain kind of music? Maybe she likes that music and likes to go to concerts. Or whatever. Answering the question "Why would a woman start a relationship with you? What's in it for her?" seems a question that some men don't want to answer. I don't mean that they don't know the answer, I mean they have a problem with the question itself.
dwaltrip 4y ago
I was pretty skeptical about dating books. But I’ve been reading “Models - Attract women through honesty”, and it has a lot of very good advice in it. I would recommend it to any guy. The TL;DR is to improve yourself, work on your insecurities, be emotionally open, and become genuinely not-needy. He provides a lot of specific helpful tactics.

davidguetta 4y ago

Depends on the age also.. women 27+ are 1000 easier to get than 23-25 on tinder

koonsolo 4y ago
That might be possible. We were both in our 30's

orangepurple 4y ago

Relationships between couples that are not looks matched are unstable at best. Good luck.