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As a short guy, I'm grateful to be gay and in a large city in the West. My experience is that most gay men are very relaxed about my height; if it even comes up
by actionablefiber 4y ago
As a short guy, I'm grateful to be gay and in a large city in the West. My experience is that most gay men are very relaxed about my height; if it even comes up they just say "oh yeah, major short king energy" and move on.
- morelisp 4y agoThis is also the attitude of most straight/bi women I know. The problem is more that straight guys almost universally lack short king energy.
- actionablefiber 4y agoI believe this. A lot gets said about the standards that people of each gender have, especially when it comes to the standards that good-looking people have, but most people of any background are normal people looking for basically compatible partners, with particularly picky people being a highly visible minority. The problem is that ceteris paribus, tall people do have an advantage in the aggregate, and "short king energy" is about having the requisite physical traits (ex. facial hair, body hair, muscles), confidence, and compelling personality to make the cetera not be paria. I also think part of the problem is A) that dating, especially on apps, places physical appearance front and center when it comes to getting your foot in the door to talk to people, and B) a lot of other people are instinctively judgmental about certain dynamics in heterosexual dating, especially when shorter/younger/less successful/less dominant men date taller/older/more successful/more dominant women, and homosexual dating is comparatively a blank slate in terms of how your friend group/family will perceive it.