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You seem to put much more thought into it than i do. I just want to be around authentic people, and gender performers aren't, i can see through the facade even

• giraffe_lady 4y ago
  Ah I see. I think the butler position is we are all gender performers, it's not really something you either are or aren't. For example a purse is a very useful item in an urban environment, so every man who doesn't use one is performing gender by rejecting a practical tool because of its gendered signals. We don't tend to notice these minor acts of gender performance because they're embedded in the culture and expected of us, but they are still performance. People who egregiously transgress gender expectations, which is I think what you are referring to as gender performers maybe, are choosing transgression but not performance. The performance is already there in one way or another, and imo they are as or more authentic than the rest of us in their willingness to acknowledge that and bear the social consequences of it.
  • blueflow 4y ago
    My laptop bag used to be a purse and just now i realized other people could attribute a gender performance meaning to it. I did never ever spent a thought about it and was happy with it, and then you came. You just caused the problem you are describing.
    • giraffe_lady 4y ago
      lmao no that's just your insecurity. whole world's a stage buddy welcome to the show!
      • blueflow 4y ago
        The insecurity thing was incorrect and rude, but the stage thing is my main grief. I don't want to perform on your stage, nor do i want to watch you do it. The script is nonsense.