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I agree with not holding the infant until they sleep, that probably makes the greatest difference. I don't understand the check-ins, because they fall asleep so

• seanc 4y ago
  Kids and families are different, but do keep in mind that there is a world of difference between an infant and a 1-year old like the grandparent (perhaps literally?) poster was talking about. There is nothing inconsistent about holding an infant and then sleep-training a 1 year old.
• seanc 4y ago
  Also, lots of kids really resist sleep and can take quite a while at it. That's where check-ins come in.
• t0mas88 4y ago
  It's really age dependent. We didn't do it as structured as OP going back at exactly 3 minutes etc. When she was under 1 year old she would sleep within 5 minutes, so no need to go back. Now that she's older and speaking, she sometimes doesn't want to go to bed and will tell you. Then it helps to communicate that you'll be back and they're not on their own. Gives enough comfort that I almost never do more than come back once after 10 minutes or so, and over half the time she's already sleeping. If not I just say good night again, hand back the stuffed animal that by that point has usually been thrown out of the bed and that's it.