I have also had better luck by reading and referencing OkCupid profiles. My last relationship lasted 7 years, so it wasn't a terrible match. Going back to loo

I have also had better luck by reading and referencing OkCupid profiles. My last relationship lasted 7 years, so it wasn't a terrible match. Going back to look at it though: I put a lot of effort into my messages, maybe 2-3 per day because each message took about 20-30 minutes to craft; but my response rate was about 1:10 and my date rate was ~about 1:100. Maybe one date every 2-3 months is so few that you put a lot of effort into each one and then, likely, come across as desperate, even if you click.