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Interesting but not entirely convincing link between being introverted or extroverted and self confidence. That probably deserves a little more nuance. Confiden

Interesting but not entirely convincing link between being introverted or extroverted and self confidence. That probably deserves a little more nuance. Confidence in which ability? I'd like to read more on that.

xmprt 4y ago
In my opinion, it's self confidence that other people want to hear what you have to say. Introverts are more likely to wait for others to prompt them or invite them into the conversation whereas extroverts will start talking with the confidence that they have something to add to the conversation. I wonder if it's similar to this article about the church of interruption. https://sambleckley.com/writing/church-of-interruption.html https://sambleckley.com/writing/church-of-interruption.html
- ZaoLahma 4y ago
  > Introverts are more likely to wait for others to prompt them or invite them into the conversation I won't pretend to speak for all introverts, but for me it's not at all a matter of waiting for an invitation (why should I ever?), but rather that I need to choose the conversations carefully, because they drain rather than energize me. I have a number of conversations "available" each day before I'm drained and need to recharge by - what makes me an introvert - not interacting with people. But if the subject at hand is interesting or important enough, I will absolutely partake in the discussion and will absolutely not wait for an invitation. Self confidence has exactly nothing to do with me being an introvert.
sergiosgc 4y ago
I really dislike that link in the article. People lacking self-confidence may be more prone to introversion, but the reverse is false. Introversion is not mostly caused by lack of self-confidence, and it's not something you should "fix", as the article implies. Of course, extreme cases of introversion (or extroversion) are pathological, but not on the normal scale of things.

xmprt 4y ago

In my opinion, it's self confidence that other people want to hear what you have to say. Introverts are more likely to wait for others to prompt them or invite them into the conversation whereas extroverts will start talking with the confidence that they have something to add to the conversation. I wonder if it's similar to this article about the church of interruption. https://sambleckley.com/writing/church-of-interruption.html https://sambleckley.com/writing/church-of-interruption.html

ZaoLahma 4y ago
> Introverts are more likely to wait for others to prompt them or invite them into the conversation I won't pretend to speak for all introverts, but for me it's not at all a matter of waiting for an invitation (why should I ever?), but rather that I need to choose the conversations carefully, because they drain rather than energize me. I have a number of conversations "available" each day before I'm drained and need to recharge by - what makes me an introvert - not interacting with people. But if the subject at hand is interesting or important enough, I will absolutely partake in the discussion and will absolutely not wait for an invitation. Self confidence has exactly nothing to do with me being an introvert.

sergiosgc 4y ago

I really dislike that link in the article. People lacking self-confidence may be more prone to introversion, but the reverse is false. Introversion is not mostly caused by lack of self-confidence, and it's not something you should "fix", as the article implies. Of course, extreme cases of introversion (or extroversion) are pathological, but not on the normal scale of things.