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I don’t like how your comment advocates for conformity to “reality”. Sometimes going against the grain is absolutely the right thing, especially when dealing wi

by tmpz22 4y ago

I don’t like how your comment advocates for conformity to “reality”. Sometimes going against the grain is absolutely the right thing, especially when dealing with individual situations versus generic advice.

WalterBright 4y ago
I'm bald and wear glasses. That's quite unfair. What do you suggest I do to redress this unfairness?
- groffee 4y ago
  - deleted 4y ago
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  - sarchertech 4y ago
    Evidence isn’t great for either of those. Definitely not good enough for you to be so flippantly dismissive of the OP.
    - notriddle 4y ago
      It’s also missing the point. Not every disability has a known cure, even if WalterBright’s examples do.
- whatarethembits 4y ago
  With strong enough motivation, one could dedicate their life to research in these areas. Much of mankind’s thrust forward can be attributed to such individuals. But this is easier said than done.
- blowski 4y ago
  Point well made. Clearly, though, some things _are_ unfair and worth fighting against.
- notacop31337 4y ago
  I bet you've got a fucking sweet beard though.
- MaulingMonkey 4y ago
  > bald Wigs are an option, although I'd be more inclined to own it and lean into it, shaving it outright. I'm not bald yet, but hair loss runs in the family, so I'll likely be dealing with this at some point. Skin care becomes important - sunscreen will help keep skin smooth and ward off UV damage over the long term. I worry somewhat about self inflicted scar tissue from the exuberance of my youth, but I'll dynamte that bridge when I get to it. > glasses Contacts or lasik may be an option. While my vision is good, I get nasty migranes from squinting too hard in the sunlight, so I keep a pair of sunglasses glued to my face most of the time. > Life gets a lot better once one accepts and deals with reality and stops getting wrapped around the axle about fairness. Life gets a lot better if one is forewarned, and knows what they're getting into - when one has agency and choice about the tradeoffs they make, and can embrace their choices, fair or not, with both eyes open. While you're right to warn against obsessing over fairness, karaterobot certainly didn't appear to be obsessing so. In that context of replying, intended or not, your words can come across as a suggestion to discourage - if not outright ignore - the topic of fairness and it's consideration. This is a great recipe for getting taken advantage of - fucked over through apathy or ignorance when you didn't need to be, through failure to advocate for oneself or for those whom one cares about - and this is unlikely to make life better at all, and which is what I suspect what some people are reacting to. Neither extreme - obsession with fairness, nor utter apathy towards it - are particularly great. It's fine to embrace and accept what can't be helped - but it's also fine to acknowledge, be aware, and perhaps even fight to fix what can be helped.
  - dandellion 4y ago
    You seem to have a lot of good ideas. I'm quite short, do you have any suggestions that could help me?
    - jakeinspace 4y ago
      Hire several extremely short people to follow you wherever you go.
    - MaulingMonkey 4y ago
      Strategically placed folding ladders or footstools are convenient for even tall people to change lightbulbs, and appropriately sized furniture will be more convenient for all sizes. Finding more considerate roommates that don't leave all the good stuff on the top shelves can also help. But I suspect you're talking more on the social or romantic front? Proper diet, sleep, stretching, and exercise can apparently still add an inch or two for an adult. While it's perhaps not much, it's not nothing either, and perhaps worthwhile for the other health, mood, and quality of life benefits anyways. Before 25, it's even more critical - malnutrition can make those with even the tallest-trending genetics short, lack of physical exercise can reduce the amount of growth hormones your body generates, and even generally "good" diets can be missing some nutrients. Platform shoes are also a thing, although quite possibly counter-productive if seen as "overcompensating," as fucked up as that might be. Perhaps worth experimenting with to see how much the extra height helps - or doesn't help. Perhaps on your next vacation, if you're worried about how it'd come across to your social circle. People aren't the same height everywhere across the globe, either, if you want to see what being relatively taller might mean. Because this is all predicated on height being both the problem and the solution - and that's almost certainly too simple. Money, fame, intelligence, kindness, confidence, wit, good humor, bad humor - there are many ways to win hearts and minds, and different things will work on different people. Some of those are easier to improve upon than others, and what's easy for who varies. Nobody has every advantage, and everyone has their weaknesses. And while I'm incredibly hesitant to recommend any kind of serious surgical procedure for "cosmetic" purpouses - with all the potential risks and costs - limb lengthening surgery is a thing. At the very least, I'd experiment with some of the options involving fewer knives before considering surgery, to see just how much the extra height would help, and verify - or refute - if the "benefit" would be worth doing all of that.
- scarface74 4y ago
  What’s wrong with being bald? I saw the writing on the wall in my mid 20s that my hairline was soon going to look like Lebrun James or George Jefferson (https://images.app.goo.gl/oJmeW1o7VFYgzUqX7 https://images.app.goo.gl/oJmeW1o7VFYgzUqX7). I cut all of my hair off. I’ve been wearing a bald head and most of the time a clean shaven face for the past 20 years. Another benefit is that no one has a clue how old I am. No gray hair or receding hairline if you cut it off.
- mlang79 4y ago
- ClumsyPilot 4y ago
  > I'm bald and wear glasses. That's quite unfair. Kidnap, restrain and shave the competition. Make the whole world bald!
avgcorrection 4y ago
Walter put all of his non-conformity points into language design.
- WalterBright 4y ago
  If you look at my comment history, I have many, many non-conforming opinions :-)
  - actionfromafar 4y ago
    You are responsible for many of my "someone is wrong on the Internet" moments :-D

by tmpz22 4y ago

WalterBright 4y ago

I'm bald and wear glasses. That's quite unfair. What do you suggest I do to redress this unfairness?

groffee 4y ago
- deleted 4y ago
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- sarchertech 4y ago
  Evidence isn’t great for either of those. Definitely not good enough for you to be so flippantly dismissive of the OP.
  - notriddle 4y ago
    It’s also missing the point. Not every disability has a known cure, even if WalterBright’s examples do.
whatarethembits 4y ago
With strong enough motivation, one could dedicate their life to research in these areas. Much of mankind’s thrust forward can be attributed to such individuals. But this is easier said than done.
blowski 4y ago
Point well made. Clearly, though, some things _are_ unfair and worth fighting against.
notacop31337 4y ago
I bet you've got a fucking sweet beard though.
MaulingMonkey 4y ago
> bald Wigs are an option, although I'd be more inclined to own it and lean into it, shaving it outright. I'm not bald yet, but hair loss runs in the family, so I'll likely be dealing with this at some point. Skin care becomes important - sunscreen will help keep skin smooth and ward off UV damage over the long term. I worry somewhat about self inflicted scar tissue from the exuberance of my youth, but I'll dynamte that bridge when I get to it. > glasses Contacts or lasik may be an option. While my vision is good, I get nasty migranes from squinting too hard in the sunlight, so I keep a pair of sunglasses glued to my face most of the time. > Life gets a lot better once one accepts and deals with reality and stops getting wrapped around the axle about fairness. Life gets a lot better if one is forewarned, and knows what they're getting into - when one has agency and choice about the tradeoffs they make, and can embrace their choices, fair or not, with both eyes open. While you're right to warn against obsessing over fairness, karaterobot certainly didn't appear to be obsessing so. In that context of replying, intended or not, your words can come across as a suggestion to discourage - if not outright ignore - the topic of fairness and it's consideration. This is a great recipe for getting taken advantage of - fucked over through apathy or ignorance when you didn't need to be, through failure to advocate for oneself or for those whom one cares about - and this is unlikely to make life better at all, and which is what I suspect what some people are reacting to. Neither extreme - obsession with fairness, nor utter apathy towards it - are particularly great. It's fine to embrace and accept what can't be helped - but it's also fine to acknowledge, be aware, and perhaps even fight to fix what can be helped.
- dandellion 4y ago
  You seem to have a lot of good ideas. I'm quite short, do you have any suggestions that could help me?
  - jakeinspace 4y ago
    Hire several extremely short people to follow you wherever you go.
  - MaulingMonkey 4y ago
    Strategically placed folding ladders or footstools are convenient for even tall people to change lightbulbs, and appropriately sized furniture will be more convenient for all sizes. Finding more considerate roommates that don't leave all the good stuff on the top shelves can also help. But I suspect you're talking more on the social or romantic front? Proper diet, sleep, stretching, and exercise can apparently still add an inch or two for an adult. While it's perhaps not much, it's not nothing either, and perhaps worthwhile for the other health, mood, and quality of life benefits anyways. Before 25, it's even more critical - malnutrition can make those with even the tallest-trending genetics short, lack of physical exercise can reduce the amount of growth hormones your body generates, and even generally "good" diets can be missing some nutrients. Platform shoes are also a thing, although quite possibly counter-productive if seen as "overcompensating," as fucked up as that might be. Perhaps worth experimenting with to see how much the extra height helps - or doesn't help. Perhaps on your next vacation, if you're worried about how it'd come across to your social circle. People aren't the same height everywhere across the globe, either, if you want to see what being relatively taller might mean. Because this is all predicated on height being both the problem and the solution - and that's almost certainly too simple. Money, fame, intelligence, kindness, confidence, wit, good humor, bad humor - there are many ways to win hearts and minds, and different things will work on different people. Some of those are easier to improve upon than others, and what's easy for who varies. Nobody has every advantage, and everyone has their weaknesses. And while I'm incredibly hesitant to recommend any kind of serious surgical procedure for "cosmetic" purpouses - with all the potential risks and costs - limb lengthening surgery is a thing. At the very least, I'd experiment with some of the options involving fewer knives before considering surgery, to see just how much the extra height would help, and verify - or refute - if the "benefit" would be worth doing all of that.
scarface74 4y ago
What’s wrong with being bald? I saw the writing on the wall in my mid 20s that my hairline was soon going to look like Lebrun James or George Jefferson (https://images.app.goo.gl/oJmeW1o7VFYgzUqX7 https://images.app.goo.gl/oJmeW1o7VFYgzUqX7). I cut all of my hair off. I’ve been wearing a bald head and most of the time a clean shaven face for the past 20 years. Another benefit is that no one has a clue how old I am. No gray hair or receding hairline if you cut it off.
mlang79 4y ago
ClumsyPilot 4y ago
> I'm bald and wear glasses. That's quite unfair. Kidnap, restrain and shave the competition. Make the whole world bald!

avgcorrection 4y ago

Walter put all of his non-conformity points into language design.

WalterBright 4y ago
If you look at my comment history, I have many, many non-conforming opinions :-)
- actionfromafar 4y ago
  You are responsible for many of my "someone is wrong on the Internet" moments :-D