There is a third option. When ever there is a private or out of band discussion, summarize it in the public discussion. Done well, this makes for the best of bo

There is a third option. When ever there is a private or out of band discussion, summarize it in the public discussion. Done well, this makes for the best of both worlds in part because it reduces the text that others need to read. However, it requires discipline and extra effort on the part of those having the private conversation.