Sometimes people are trying to expose you to things you wouldn't necessarily consider yourself. And that's the root of this whole conversation - she's asking f

Sometimes people are trying to expose you to things you wouldn't necessarily consider yourself. And that's the root of this whole conversation - she's asking for his help here because she thinks he knows better. So if she's dead set on avoiding getting that advice - Great! She can buy the computer herself. Like a damn grown up... I'm also not going to say that he's making a great choice here - WE DON'T KNOW! Two weeks from now he might be installing Windows for her and apologizing for putting Linux on it... I'm saying it's utterly inappropriate to judge their relationship and his post based on that assumption. It's entirely fair to ask a partner to try new things - and it's NOT fucking malicious. It can be - if you do it all the time and it's not reciprocal - but it can also be a fantastic way to bond, try new things, and have new experiences. Or it can be a minor annoyance tolerated because they enjoy other aspects of each other. To assume otherwise... is frankly a juvenile approach to relationships. Basically - you don't get to determine how they interact, and it's up to him (and his wife) to determine if this interaction is appropriate, enjoyed, or hated. It can be any of the above, and nothing in the post hints either way. Would you think it condescending and a jerk move to ask someone to try a new food? Or a new book? Or a song from a genre of music they don't like?