> That seems.. unnecessarily harsh? That was me honestly, trying not to be harsh. And it seems necessary. > Why would you assume it was forced? At the time, m

> That seems.. unnecessarily harsh? That was me honestly, trying not to be harsh. And it seems necessary. > Why would you assume it was forced? At the time, my wife could barely mount an objection in that area. Barely, so she did? And more or less, this was a decision made by you? That is how you put it across. Edit: It's not a game of gotcha, it's that you made this clear and it was obivous. As I said, you put it across that you made the decsion and acted upon it. And seriously, look into getting help. It's not healthy.