You see this type of post here because HN tends to attract the type of person that usually has the mantle of "tech expert" in families (often times, much to the

You see this type of post here because HN tends to attract the type of person that usually has the mantle of "tech expert" in families (often times, much to their regret and dismay...). It doesn't really have jack shit to do with gender in any way other than the historical imbalance in the IT space meaning the person here is more likely to be male (and frankly - that's changing somewhat, as well it should). The same type of posts pop up for grandparents all the time, and kids, and aunts/uncles/extended family. It's not about "controlling his wife" it's about doing literally the exact thing you wanted: > "teach her best practices, from a place of love, to empower her." That's literally this post. He's trying to make a tech decision he thinks is correct (whether it is or not is moot), when he's clearly been placed in a spot to make those decisions, since it seems like he's setting up the machines and making the purchases (and his first suggestion of "update to an ssd" was vetoed.) He's then working to ease the pain points of that choice by asking for a more coherent and less jarring way to do it here. Did he make the right choice? Who gives a fuck - that's a conversation for him and his wife. Is this post creepy? Hardly.