First step: ask yourself if this is really a worthwhile pursuit. Then ask yourself again. Then ask yourself, of all possible changes I could ask my wife to ma

First step: ask yourself if this is really a worthwhile pursuit. Then ask yourself again. Then ask yourself, of all possible changes I could ask my wife to make for me and my happiness (spending more time together at social events or at home, getting more dressed up for fancy occasions, changing some frustrating personal habit in the household, communicating differently, etc) is this the one I want to cash in my chips for or should I hold out and use them for something more important.