I wrote the comments about my father-in-law at the end of my workday yesterday, and I wanted to come back this morning and answer your question a little more di

I wrote the comments about my father-in-law at the end of my workday yesterday, and I wanted to come back this morning and answer your question a little more directly. For us, we couldn't bear the thought of watching him waste away in a home and feel helpless to make him comfortable. The care received in those places is often sub-par and careless, at least in our area and for the budget we had available. For us, having him in our home was better because we had the responsibility and opportunity to do our best to make him comfortable. It was also easier for our adult kids and their spouses to come over and visit him. The food was also much better, and many memories will live on of sitting around the dinner table together. We also got the invaluable lessons on patience and self-sacrifice that come with caring for an older person. They're not fully aware of the burdens they are placing on you. They really do regress in many ways to being like children. We would often joke that it was like living with a toddler who wanted to also cook dinner. We felt that we could provide a more comfortable environment in our home than anything we could afford in a care center. My youngest daughter still lives at home, and she also got many important lessons about patience, self-sacrifice, and love. And respect for our parents and grandparents who have already sacrificed so much for us. Taking care of them at the end of their lives is a small but important way of being able to show gratitude to them. It's not an easy decision for anyone, and the challenges and struggles you face will be unique and unpredictable, but I have zero regrets and much gratitude for how our family has grown together as a result of all of us participating in the end of life care for my father-in-law.