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I have never resolved my conflict between a Christian love for my fellow human and being very fast to lose my temper with strangers. I wish I could swing to th

I have never resolved my conflict between a Christian love for my fellow human and being very fast to lose my temper with strangers. I wish I could swing to the former and away from the latter. I feel it is rooted in a spidey-sense for detecting when people around me lack humility or competence. I am completely useless at so many things, I am self aware of this, and while I want to get better I am realistic about it never being likely to happen. I seem to encounter a significant minority of people who are not like this. I wonder what event in Jobs’ life he was responding to.

throwaway787544 4y ago
I think it's less a "Spidey sense" and more an ego self defense mechanism. You hate or fear something and go into anger mode because you want to change it. But there isn't actually any external threat - the threat is internal. You're fighting a feeling or thought you want to suppress, and it's being directed outward because you don't want to acknowledge it. (IANAT)
felix318 4y ago
The Christian dilemma, almost a paradox really, is that the more you love humanity the harder it is to love humans.
- auslegung 4y ago
  Source? This is absurd from a Christian perspective. Not a MAGA perspective but an orthodox Christian perspective. Or Islam, or Jewish, or Buddhist, etc
jasonlotito 4y ago
> I feel it is rooted in a spidey-sense for detecting when people around me lack humility or competence The irony of always being the person you would lose your temper at. > I am realistic about it never being likely to happen That's not realistic. You can change that. It takes effort. Unless you mean you are realistic that you will never put in the honest effort to change that. Edit: This sounds harsh, but I'm being serious.
- gorgoiler 4y ago
  Thank you for the thoughtful reply.
  - gioka 4y ago
    gorgoiller, I was passing for a similar situation and I overcame the obstacle. On the beginning, I was hopeless. My advice is talking to people that lived what you are living now, they can give you ways to overcome this situation.
avg_dev 4y ago
I am not through with it yet but this book has changed my life in a very positive way: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EH1OEO0/ https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EH1OEO0/ Perhaps it could do the same for you.

throwaway787544 4y ago

I think it's less a "Spidey sense" and more an ego self defense mechanism. You hate or fear something and go into anger mode because you want to change it. But there isn't actually any external threat - the threat is internal. You're fighting a feeling or thought you want to suppress, and it's being directed outward because you don't want to acknowledge it. (IANAT)

felix318 4y ago

The Christian dilemma, almost a paradox really, is that the more you love humanity the harder it is to love humans.

auslegung 4y ago
Source? This is absurd from a Christian perspective. Not a MAGA perspective but an orthodox Christian perspective. Or Islam, or Jewish, or Buddhist, etc

jasonlotito 4y ago

> I feel it is rooted in a spidey-sense for detecting when people around me lack humility or competence The irony of always being the person you would lose your temper at. > I am realistic about it never being likely to happen That's not realistic. You can change that. It takes effort. Unless you mean you are realistic that you will never put in the honest effort to change that. Edit: This sounds harsh, but I'm being serious.

gorgoiler 4y ago
Thank you for the thoughtful reply.
- gioka 4y ago
  gorgoiller, I was passing for a similar situation and I overcame the obstacle. On the beginning, I was hopeless. My advice is talking to people that lived what you are living now, they can give you ways to overcome this situation.

avg_dev 4y ago

I am not through with it yet but this book has changed my life in a very positive way: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EH1OEO0/ https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B01EH1OEO0/ Perhaps it could do the same for you.