Just went through this with Inlaws. They lived 20 minutes away, my wife would cook meals, shop for them and take her mother to dialysis. I stop by after work an

Just went through this with Inlaws. They lived 20 minutes away, my wife would cook meals, shop for them and take her mother to dialysis. I stop by after work and heat up dinner and make sure their meds were ready for the next day. MIL passed just before the lockdowns. After lockdown, I did my WFH at my FIL place, until he was hospitalized for a bleeding ulcer(while on blood thinners not good). Then I lived there full time until he passed 10 months later. He never expected to outlive his wife and would not consider a senior facility. In the end he had kidney failure, bile duct cancer, and lest body dementia. My advice take care of what you can now. Get someone added to the title of the house NOW while they are still mentally able so that you can avoid probate. If they have other property, sell it now. We had to open ancillary probate in Florida for real estate they owned for 30 years - making us miss the best market in years. Get their power of attorney and medical power of attorney in place and active NOW. They can’t sign after having a stroke or when unconscious. And realize things can go downhill quickly. Every illness, or hospitalization takes more out of them, and a lot longer for them to recover. On a serious note, I had the TALK with my parents. I reminded them of how, as a child, I was told having a pony was a foolish luxury and that needed to learn the value of money. I told them I remember that lesson and plan to utilize it when the time come for them to move into a facility. They may want to move in with their other children, because who really needs more than 2stars for a long term care facility.