>Have clarity about what you want before you're too old and too incapacitated to make a nuanced choice. Write it down. Communicate it with your kids and loved o

>Have clarity about what you want before you're too old and too incapacitated to make a nuanced choice. Write it down. Communicate it with your kids and loved ones. >Anything else is just creating needless pain. I've had experiences with those who planned and those who didn't and the former is better. My dad planned and so we could spend time doing things he wanted until the very end. My MIL didn't and for a few years it was a constant struggle to be patient. I'm glad I was there with both but man, I'll take planning any day.