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Unpopular opinion: complaining about life circumstances isn't polite conversation with an acquaintance, especially a client. Your interlocutor will feel put u

• m0llusk 4y ago
  And what did you do before this? I was in prison. My recommendation is to stick to client needs and the job at hand. Do you advocate for answering questions directly?
• mgkimsal 4y ago
  Have had people do that to me when I'm buying from them, and first time it felt awkward. Typically, that's the last time I do business with them as well. 2001, I owed someone some money from a business transaction. They'd dragged their feet for weeks getting this done, and we'd already missed an initial deadline. She then sent me an invoice the instant I said "yeah, looks OK", and I got half a dozen calls and emails that afternoon demanding payment then. "Fedex a check". "I need this now". "I have to get my car repaired". The amount was just under $5k. Left a horrible bad taste in my mouth, and I never used that person again. I also told the person who'd connected us who was suitably... taken aback at how aggressive that pestering was, and subsequently they didn't do any more business either. I've been able to sense it ahead of times sometimes, and in other cases, I've gotten better at ignoring what I take as attempted manipulation. It's also made me perhaps a bit more (over?)sensitive to how what I'm saying to someone might be taken (or twisted).