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The problem is that this is not even a rough matching what people feel. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/supersurvivors/201707/why-the-five-stages-grief

The problem is that this is not even a rough matching what people feel. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/supersurvivors/201707/why-the-five-stages-grief-are-wrong https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/supersurvivors/20170... "In fact, the actual grief process looks a lot less like a neat set of stages and a lot more like a roller coaster of emotions. Even Kubler-Ross said that grief doesn’t proceed in a linear and predictable fashion, writing toward the end of her career that she regretted her stages had been misunderstood."

coldtea 4y ago
>In fact, the actual grief process looks a lot less like a neat set of stages and a lot more like a roller coaster of emotions. Roller-coasters still have a specific route and different stages. I'd say in the same way there can be a prevailing sentiment at each stage of grief, even if this or that sentiment comes and goes at times at all stages.
- oxfordmale 4y ago
  It is more a disjointed roller coaster. Some stages of grief can be skipped all together or aren't experienced in a linear order.
  - coldtea 4y ago
    I think this sibling comment covers my point well: "Did you ever expect that there were discrete and linear stages? I always assumed that these were emotional “attractors”, different emotional states that we migrated through without any particular vector. More like a cruise through a dismal archipelago."
- SPBesui 4y ago
  Metaphors are of course imperfect by their very nature, but more importantly, the phrase “a roller coaster of emotions” isn’t even really a metaphor. It’s a figure of speech that means one is going through a wide range of feelings and/or emotions in a (relatively) short amount of time, possibly in rapid succession or even simultaneously. I think it was used appropriately.
Tagbert 4y ago
Did you ever expect that there were discrete and linear stages? I always assumed that these were emotional “attractors”, different emotional states that we migrated through without any particular vector. More like a cruise through a dismal archipelago.

coldtea 4y ago

>In fact, the actual grief process looks a lot less like a neat set of stages and a lot more like a roller coaster of emotions. Roller-coasters still have a specific route and different stages. I'd say in the same way there can be a prevailing sentiment at each stage of grief, even if this or that sentiment comes and goes at times at all stages.

oxfordmale 4y ago
It is more a disjointed roller coaster. Some stages of grief can be skipped all together or aren't experienced in a linear order.
- coldtea 4y ago
  I think this sibling comment covers my point well: "Did you ever expect that there were discrete and linear stages? I always assumed that these were emotional “attractors”, different emotional states that we migrated through without any particular vector. More like a cruise through a dismal archipelago."
SPBesui 4y ago
Metaphors are of course imperfect by their very nature, but more importantly, the phrase “a roller coaster of emotions” isn’t even really a metaphor. It’s a figure of speech that means one is going through a wide range of feelings and/or emotions in a (relatively) short amount of time, possibly in rapid succession or even simultaneously. I think it was used appropriately.

Tagbert 4y ago

Did you ever expect that there were discrete and linear stages? I always assumed that these were emotional “attractors”, different emotional states that we migrated through without any particular vector. More like a cruise through a dismal archipelago.