lets rephrase it differently. why does a gay person have to have the ability to marry someone of the same sex. "what will happen?" the answer is generally the

lets rephrase it differently. why does a gay person have to have the ability to marry someone of the same sex. "what will happen?" the answer is generally they won't be true to themselves (the whole concept of living in the closet). I generally try to relate tolerance in these contexts back and forth to different groups. The conservative religious person might think that the gay person is doing something fundamentally wrong (and in their opinion bad for society), but tolerance would be allowing, (which doesn't require the religious person to condone), them to do what one finds to be wrong, as the cost of intolerance can be viewed as worse for society. Vice versa, the secular person might think someone restricting themselves for "religious reasons" what food they are willing to consume is stupid (and even say arguably bad for society for various reasons), but the cost of being intolerant is worse than the cost to society of enabling people to have food / providing it to them in situations. yes, one can try to nit pick this analogy, but I think its an effective way for trying to frame the problem and understanding tolerance. There are times where intolerance might justified, but one really has to be honest about what the cost to society of being "intolerant" in this situation is (and if you can't be honest about, you don't have the right to be intolerant) as well as the why that is outweighed by the societal benefit of being "intolerant". As it relates to this ice cream situation, the cost of being "intolerant" to the kosher eater is that they will be isolated from their peers. These events are about bringing everyone together. So, even if providing kosher ice cream is a little bit more expensive, it can still be viewed as a net win for the company to be tolerant of different peoples self imposed food restrictions. The same would apply to someone who is lactose intolerant, I would assume any company that buys dairy free desserts for one segment of their population to be able to fully participate, would be just as willing to include lactose intolerant people within that population for the purpose of this activity.