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I would add: 4. It's hard to understand and appreciate the advice without experiencing the situation first.
by kkoncevicius 4y ago
I would add:
4. It's hard to understand and appreciate the advice without experiencing the situation first.
- rektide 4y agoOn the one hand, yes! Yes yes. But lesson #3 is still imo what most causes your #4. Having thr humility & where-withall to understand & appreciate your own limits of cognition, to be able to appreciate & respect the things you dont fully know: that is what makes the better person, that is what it takes to start to grow & mature. Not wanting advice is not functionally different from failing to let oneself atune to & receieve the messages about. Accept, even if not fully understand: just register, just let it in a bit, if not necessarily yet take up.
- xboxnolifes 4y agoArrogance (un-humility / not appreciating your own limits) is not the only reason one may reject advice. Unless the person giving the advise is already respected/revered for their knowledge by the person receiving the advice, then there is no reason for them to value the advise received over whatever their original plan of action was. This is [1] from the post. Bad advice exists, and if you cannot differentiate it, you must experience the reason for it. In which case, experiencing the scenario for the advise validates the need and usefulness of the advice.
- Jiro 4y agoThat works both ways. It's hard to give someone helpful advice without experiencing their situation. (Or at least, understanding it alot more than you probably think you do.)