I'm not here to "be correct about somebody's particular definition of words," I'm here to try to get people to make better decisions and actions in the world.

I'm not here to "be correct about somebody's particular definition of words," I'm here to try to get people to make better decisions and actions in the world. It is absolutely the case that the definition you are using can serve as a technically correct one. But that's not very important. What is important is that real people are being harmed by exploitative technology, and you handwaving that away as if it should be a dismissable part of the conversation is you doing a bad thing.