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>Given today's obsession with personality, Carnegie seems fairly character driven in comparison! I've never understood the hate for HTWFaIP... sure it's folksy
by poulsbohemian 4y ago
>Given today's obsession with personality, Carnegie seems fairly character driven in comparison!
I've never understood the hate for HTWFaIP... sure it's folksy and seems phony on the surface, but his core message works across time and generations - take an interest in the people you meet, as that becomes the basis of relationships. I'm an introvert, I stutter when I get nervous around people, but internalizing the core message of that book has helped me throughout life to connect with people and step outside my comfort zone consistently.
- r3trohack3r 4y agoI think this is exactly it for me. It is teaching me that everyone has an interesting story to tell if you just take a moment to listen. I understand how a psychopath could take the book and do damage - but the core message seems to be genuine and solid advice. People are living an experience just like you. And, likely just like you, most seem to want others to be invested in that experience. Going on that journey with them makes making friends easy - you learn fascinating stuff every day and they feel good when they walk away from the conversation.