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At least it was a baby tooth :) 3 is a little young to have much independence anyways, I would think closer to 1st grade is when kids can start having bit more

nico 4y ago
> 3 is a little young to have much independence This is very much a cultural and setting thing. In Japan there’s a tradition of having kids, at around 3 years old, go out by themselves to run errands. There’s a whole tv show about it. If you are curious about other cultures as well, there’s a pretty good documentary on Apple tv about the first 5 years of life of kids from all around the world, including kids in rural areas, big cities and even small remote tribes. Regarding the setting, there are some places (like some resorts or big estates), where young kids can be very safe and that allows them to be on their own a lot and build their independence.
- spywaregorilla 4y ago
  The children on this TV show go along preplanned routes that are vetted by the show and are of course secretly supervised by the tv crews. 3 year olds are not routinely running errands in japan. Young children do do things at a much younger age independently in japan than america, but it's not like the show. edit: not to imply the show is fake or anything. It's just a special situation the show is filming.
  - autoexec 4y ago
    As carefully supervised as those kids are, it has made me realize how much more capable children that age are than I gave them credit for. I'm still not sure I'd have done as well when I was that little. I was walking myself to/from primary school at least.
drewzero1 4y ago
My 2 year old would beg to differ... everything right now is "I do it!" Of course I don't always let the kid do it, but I try to keep an open mind for what they're capable of.
- vel0city 4y ago
  My <2 year old gets frustrated if we try to help too much brushing teeth or putting his pants on! He also hates it when you try and feed him, he'll fight it until you just set the spoon down and let him feed himself.
  - drewzero1 4y ago
    I've been learning to be okay with a bit more mess and a bit more time to get ready for things. I'm also learning guiding techniques like allowing my child to choose between two acceptable options. Win-win if it works: they get to feel like they're getting their way, and I'm getting mine.
- bombcar 4y ago
  The key is finding things that they CAN do that you're pretty certain won't hurt them too much if they somehow fail. Because otherwise they're going to silently sit and watch and wait, and then one night grab the car keys and put the car in neutral and roll down the driveway into the neighbor's yard. At least so I've heard.
  - drewzero1 4y ago
    Yes, that's the trick. And making sure those boundaries are enforced consistently (if mom says no ask dad, &c). I certainly did my fair share of independent acting out in my teen years (the car example is right on the nose for me) but we've got a lot of groundwork to lay before we get to that point. As far as I can tell the next target is learning how to use a doorknob, which will bring its own set of challenges.

nico 4y ago

> 3 is a little young to have much independence This is very much a cultural and setting thing. In Japan there’s a tradition of having kids, at around 3 years old, go out by themselves to run errands. There’s a whole tv show about it. If you are curious about other cultures as well, there’s a pretty good documentary on Apple tv about the first 5 years of life of kids from all around the world, including kids in rural areas, big cities and even small remote tribes. Regarding the setting, there are some places (like some resorts or big estates), where young kids can be very safe and that allows them to be on their own a lot and build their independence.

spywaregorilla 4y ago
The children on this TV show go along preplanned routes that are vetted by the show and are of course secretly supervised by the tv crews. 3 year olds are not routinely running errands in japan. Young children do do things at a much younger age independently in japan than america, but it's not like the show. edit: not to imply the show is fake or anything. It's just a special situation the show is filming.
- autoexec 4y ago
  As carefully supervised as those kids are, it has made me realize how much more capable children that age are than I gave them credit for. I'm still not sure I'd have done as well when I was that little. I was walking myself to/from primary school at least.

drewzero1 4y ago

My 2 year old would beg to differ... everything right now is "I do it!" Of course I don't always let the kid do it, but I try to keep an open mind for what they're capable of.

vel0city 4y ago
My <2 year old gets frustrated if we try to help too much brushing teeth or putting his pants on! He also hates it when you try and feed him, he'll fight it until you just set the spoon down and let him feed himself.
- drewzero1 4y ago
  I've been learning to be okay with a bit more mess and a bit more time to get ready for things. I'm also learning guiding techniques like allowing my child to choose between two acceptable options. Win-win if it works: they get to feel like they're getting their way, and I'm getting mine.
bombcar 4y ago
The key is finding things that they CAN do that you're pretty certain won't hurt them too much if they somehow fail. Because otherwise they're going to silently sit and watch and wait, and then one night grab the car keys and put the car in neutral and roll down the driveway into the neighbor's yard. At least so I've heard.
- drewzero1 4y ago
  Yes, that's the trick. And making sure those boundaries are enforced consistently (if mom says no ask dad, &c). I certainly did my fair share of independent acting out in my teen years (the car example is right on the nose for me) but we've got a lot of groundwork to lay before we get to that point. As far as I can tell the next target is learning how to use a doorknob, which will bring its own set of challenges.