naive means being surprised by something negative that happened to you. To prepare your children for the world means making sure they're aware of possibilities

naive means being surprised by something negative that happened to you. To prepare your children for the world means making sure they're aware of possibilities. OTOH, being prepared is not the same as being fearful. I've seen posts by women describing how they were _fearful_ of men until they were 18-20 and realized most men aren't a razors edge away from raping them. And their relationship with men completely changed. That doesn't mean women should be ignorant of the possibility, but it does mean they shouldn't be _fearful_. Rather they should learn to recognize situations where the possibility is higher and avoid them. Years ago I read a story about 3 young women who were paid to entertain some men in a boat that sat in international waters. At some point they were asked for sex, refused, got raped, then dropped off at the airport without the money they were promised. In a perfect world things like this would never happen. But our world isn't perfect and there's a certain level of naivete in the actions of those young women, they could have avoided all of that by recognizing the danger and refusing.