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Maybe I'm just yelling at clouds here, but my reaction was "no shit." I met my wife at a running club. Of my friend group, most met while active in sports or

Maybe I'm just yelling at clouds here, but my reaction was "no shit." I met my wife at a running club. Of my friend group, most met while active in sports or other activities. A few were introduced by common friends on a "you might like so-and-so" basis. And a few met in college. I'm only aware of two couples in my extended friend group who met using dating apps - and both of those were premium subscription models, not freebie Tinder-like apps. Dating apps strike me as a very low-quality (low fidelity?) way to match couples.

swatcoder 4y ago
> Dating apps strike me as a very low-quality (low fidelity?) way to match couples. It's true, but a lot of people don't have the opportunity or patience for those other approaches. If they're not just homebody introverts in the first place, they may already have a pretty saturated schedule/network without many suitable people around to pair off with. This happens to a lot of people as college recedes and life establishes a professional, mid-life rhythm. Dating apps are garbage, but alternatives aren't always practical.
- akomtu 4y ago
  An idea that hasnt been tried in dating apps is introduction-only dating: you can't spam someone's inbox unless you know someone in common. Such an app could be run by a non-profit. Yes, I still have some naive optimism.
- JGailor 4y ago
  > If they're not just homebody introverts in the first place, they may already have a pretty saturated schedule/network without many suitable people around to pair off with. Then they really don't have the time for a relationship. Maybe they just want a hook-up, but that also takes time to connect with people and build relationships for something casual. It's all just work, at the end of the day, and a lot of people are unsatisfied with that answer. Things like being on the high-end of attractiveness are like cheat codes, but those people still have to put in effort to connect with people before they get to the fun part.

swatcoder 4y ago

> Dating apps strike me as a very low-quality (low fidelity?) way to match couples. It's true, but a lot of people don't have the opportunity or patience for those other approaches. If they're not just homebody introverts in the first place, they may already have a pretty saturated schedule/network without many suitable people around to pair off with. This happens to a lot of people as college recedes and life establishes a professional, mid-life rhythm. Dating apps are garbage, but alternatives aren't always practical.

akomtu 4y ago
An idea that hasnt been tried in dating apps is introduction-only dating: you can't spam someone's inbox unless you know someone in common. Such an app could be run by a non-profit. Yes, I still have some naive optimism.
JGailor 4y ago
> If they're not just homebody introverts in the first place, they may already have a pretty saturated schedule/network without many suitable people around to pair off with. Then they really don't have the time for a relationship. Maybe they just want a hook-up, but that also takes time to connect with people and build relationships for something casual. It's all just work, at the end of the day, and a lot of people are unsatisfied with that answer. Things like being on the high-end of attractiveness are like cheat codes, but those people still have to put in effort to connect with people before they get to the fun part.