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Alpha widowing is a thing. Expectations get anchored at a high water mark so that dating most other men is a disappointment and a severe knock to their own self
by cjbgkagh 4y ago
Alpha widowing is a thing. Expectations get anchored at a high water mark so that dating most other men is a disappointment and a severe knock to their own self worth.
Ideally people would be realistic but women especially are being encouraged to want more. I think this mismatch of expectations is very damaging to society. I know a lot of alpha widowed women who are now going through a major crisis in middle age and I expect the problem to get much worse.
- gadders 4y agoYes, I think it can particularly be an issue if women want to have children one day (not saying they all should). To find a guy you want to settle down with (and for you both to generate the required level of mutual trust) can take multiple years with no guarantee the relationship will endure.
- LorenPechtel 4y agoI wasn't aware of the term but I fully agree about the expectation anchor problem. Dating apps just make it much easier to get one's expectations anchored too high.