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(I'm assuming that you're from a western culture, and I note that your profile says that you're a "corporate lawyer".) You seem to be saying that living indepe

(I'm assuming that you're from a western culture, and I note that your profile says that you're a "corporate lawyer".) You seem to be saying that living independently is expensive, involves chores that you find less rewarding than your hobbies, and (reading between the lines) you don't enjoy being on your own. But all that will be different when you're married. As someone who is twice your age, let me just say with what i hope you'll perceive as kindness: this is life as an adult. At 26 you ahould get used to it, and find a way to flourish as an independent adult. Your parents will miss you. That's normal. But as a parent myself, I have to tell you that they should know that they don't get to keep you. Their job at this point is to kindly and supportively push you out of the nest. And your job is to fly off and do things with your life. And come back to visit them sometimes, when you can. One last thing: you maybe need to watch the "when I get married" thing. Sustaining a relationship with a person that you live with is way harder than living on your own. It's probably the hardest thing you'll ever do. Don't load unreasonable expectations onto your future partner. Good luck.

terminalcommand 4y ago
Hello, Thank you very much. You're right I should find a way to flourish as an adult. But it's hard. I thought after getting married I'd split the chores I wouldn't feel lonely but it could be even harder that's true. I live in Turkey, it's in the middle of eastern/western cultures. High earning people want to move out quickly as westeners do, middle/low class people usually don't move out until they get married. My parents live in a family apartment. My grandparents, aunts etc. live in separate flats but in the same apartment. I'd very much like a similar arrangement :). Turkey is also experiencing a super high inflation right now around 80% p.a. per the official numbers. Housing prices have risen more than 140% during the last year and more than 100% the year before that. So I also have financial worries about the future. Maybe it would be better if I can get the cheaper family flat. I would feel more secure knowing that no one would evict me or raise my rent. I will also be able to save more. Thank you again for your comments. I gained some clarity, I will continue to try adapting to living alone.
- andyjohnson0 4y ago
  I wish you well

terminalcommand 4y ago

Hello, Thank you very much. You're right I should find a way to flourish as an adult. But it's hard. I thought after getting married I'd split the chores I wouldn't feel lonely but it could be even harder that's true. I live in Turkey, it's in the middle of eastern/western cultures. High earning people want to move out quickly as westeners do, middle/low class people usually don't move out until they get married. My parents live in a family apartment. My grandparents, aunts etc. live in separate flats but in the same apartment. I'd very much like a similar arrangement :). Turkey is also experiencing a super high inflation right now around 80% p.a. per the official numbers. Housing prices have risen more than 140% during the last year and more than 100% the year before that. So I also have financial worries about the future. Maybe it would be better if I can get the cheaper family flat. I would feel more secure knowing that no one would evict me or raise my rent. I will also be able to save more. Thank you again for your comments. I gained some clarity, I will continue to try adapting to living alone.

andyjohnson0 4y ago
I wish you well