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I tried Tinder and Bumble for about a month and they made me feel like shit. I'm a living breathing person and I have to reduce myself into a short text descrip

I tried Tinder and Bumble for about a month and they made me feel like shit. I'm a living breathing person and I have to reduce myself into a short text description and some perfect pictures. I don't even take selfies so I'm already faking it! The whole concept is just vain and feels disgusting. I've simply accepted that I'm going to be single unless something dramatic happens in my life.

bionsystem 4y ago
I tried other apps a long time ago before tinder existed and felt the same. I've given up on dating years ago and will probably never go back. For me it felt like constant stress, pressure to appear perfect or near-perfect, and lots and lots of disappointment. It's not just the apps either (I was going to bars and club mainly to try and meet women). Quitting actually helped me recover from depression and now I'm alone and somewhat happy, while before I was a constantly dissatisfied mess. Hope you find someone if that's what you want, but just so you know, you can do well alone.
soared 4y ago
Hinge is the only dating app I’d reccommend. Its much more purposeful in solving the issues you had compared to tinder and bumble.
- bionsystem 4y ago
  I went on the site and can't figure out how to subscribe nor what's different about them (although they say a lot that they are). What's so good about them ?
mathieuh 4y ago
Very happy to see a comment like this because I feel exactly the same. Luckily I much prefer being on my own in pretty much every situation.
mod 4y ago
I've twice signed up for dating apps and had the exact same experience you have. I do not like trying to prove how worthwhile I am in two sentences. I deleted them within 24 hours. Disgust was a great word choice. I'm 39 and single, although I have decent success offline when I expend any effort. The women who I've dated in real life--I'm pretty sure they'd all ignore me on the dating app. Phrased differently, I find the women I've actually dated far more attractive (not only physically) than any who will engage with me online.
vlod 4y ago
>The whole concept is just vain and feels disgusting. Agreed. >unless something dramatic happens in my life. I will kindly suggest that maybe that dramatic thing is you and what you will do starting today. e.g. Look at suggestions from others, NOT talking about apps.

bionsystem 4y ago

I tried other apps a long time ago before tinder existed and felt the same. I've given up on dating years ago and will probably never go back. For me it felt like constant stress, pressure to appear perfect or near-perfect, and lots and lots of disappointment. It's not just the apps either (I was going to bars and club mainly to try and meet women). Quitting actually helped me recover from depression and now I'm alone and somewhat happy, while before I was a constantly dissatisfied mess. Hope you find someone if that's what you want, but just so you know, you can do well alone.

soared 4y ago

Hinge is the only dating app I’d reccommend. Its much more purposeful in solving the issues you had compared to tinder and bumble.

bionsystem 4y ago
I went on the site and can't figure out how to subscribe nor what's different about them (although they say a lot that they are). What's so good about them ?

mathieuh 4y ago

Very happy to see a comment like this because I feel exactly the same. Luckily I much prefer being on my own in pretty much every situation.

mod 4y ago

I've twice signed up for dating apps and had the exact same experience you have. I do not like trying to prove how worthwhile I am in two sentences. I deleted them within 24 hours. Disgust was a great word choice. I'm 39 and single, although I have decent success offline when I expend any effort. The women who I've dated in real life--I'm pretty sure they'd all ignore me on the dating app. Phrased differently, I find the women I've actually dated far more attractive (not only physically) than any who will engage with me online.

vlod 4y ago

>The whole concept is just vain and feels disgusting. Agreed. >unless something dramatic happens in my life. I will kindly suggest that maybe that dramatic thing is you and what you will do starting today. e.g. Look at suggestions from others, NOT talking about apps.