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> It's like a relationship; you don't find a perfect person to love, you just pick someone and love them for who they are. Real relationships are not like that

• muzani 4y ago
  A definition of love by Cornel West = unequivocal and unconditional commitment to the welfare of another, whoever or whatever it is It can be dangerous. It can be used in destructive, manipulative, and abusive manners. And it often is - leaders who get you to die for your country, or employers who tell you they're "family". But without love, you lose a lot from life. It needs courage, it needs some level of honesty. And you do have to filter before committing. But sometimes you don't get to filter. You love the in-laws, you love the kids, your neighbor. The common definition is closer to sentimental love, wanting the luxury of the emotions without paying for it. The sentimentalist talks about good things but have no intention of following through. They take no risks. The cynic is the opposite, they actively choose not to commit. But they also deprive themselves of the luxury of the emotions.