Motivated drivers can similarly justify all sorts of reckless behavior like driving up a shoulder, cutting through a parking lot, ignoring no-passing indicators

Motivated drivers can similarly justify all sorts of reckless behavior like driving up a shoulder, cutting through a parking lot, ignoring no-passing indicators, cheating the wrong way up a short 1-way segment, excessive speeding, etc etc And you're right that there's a social kindness in empathizing with those people rather than loathing them. But that doesn't change that the behavior is reckless and elective, that there's value in calling it out as such. One's not in the right just because they feel justified.