Is it the same thing a being a good software engineer? I've got relatively limited experience working a software engineer but to my disappointment, it seems mo

Is it the same thing a being a good software engineer? I've got relatively limited experience working a software engineer but to my disappointment, it seems more than 70% of my job isn't programming. Most of the work is discussing priorities, making tradeoffs, interacting with colleagues and management, writing design documents, giving feedback, writing doc, maintaining, benchmarking, and debugging services, learning proprietary tools and systems, reading documentation, figure out how these legacy systems work, interview candidates, mentor interns. Programming is in the weekend and after working hours.